How to create an evening routine so you are fuel for tomorrow

Updated: May 20, 2020

Last week I started my journey to self care, and I talked about sleep being one of the primary focuses. But it can be hard to get a good nights sleep when you have a million and one things on your mind.


And trust me, I understand... I’m a Virgo. The queens of overthinking.


A good evening routine can help slow down your mind and prepare you to sleep. In this article I’m going to share with you my routine and help you create one of your own.


Remember. We are in this together. So this will be interactive and you will have your routine by the end... so before you continue, grab your paper and pen.


Ok. Here we go.


Step 1: Make a list of what you want to include.

This may look different for you, if you are married, have multiple kids, single, etc... The point is to get down the things important for you and your household.


So go head and write those down now.


This may look different for you, if you are married, have multiple kids, single, etc... The point is to get down the things important for you and your household.


So go head and write those down now.


For our household, the list is...

  • Dinner

  • Mommy daughter time

  • Burn energy

  • Reading bible and praying

  • Showering

  • Cleaning up

  • Brush teeth

  • Wash face

  • Quiet time

  • Stretch

  • Relax

  • Read book

  • Reflection

  • Practice gratitude

  • Getting daughter ready for bed

  • Unplugging

  • Sleep


Hold on babe...


I can already feel the overwhelm setting in.


Take a deep breath.


It’s not a bad as it seems.




Step 2: Group Things Together


Your list can get very daunting especially the more people you are responsible for (I hope you took that deep breath)...


Finding creative ways to group things together is key.


For example, after dinner me and Kai have our “Walk and Talks” were we take a 15-20 min walk together. During the walk and talk we do something called Happy Crappy, where we each say a happy and crappy thing from our day. She gets time with just me and her, I get to stay tuned into her life, and we get to burn energy.

Mommy daughter time. ✔️

Burn energy. ✔️

Reflection. ✔️

Gratitude. ✔️


4 birds... 1 stone!


What things on your list can you group together?


PS: if you get stuck here, do not hesitate to send me an email or leave a comment. I can help you find creative ways to group things.


Step 3: Put them in order.


Our goal with the routine is to slow the body down, so think about your family needs. If you have an active toddler, their routine may need to come first, but if you have a older kid it may be able to be simultaneous.


For me and Kai.

Our routine order is:

  1. Dinner

  2. Walk and talk (Unplug. Reflect. Gratitude. Mommy/Daughter time. Burn energy. )

  3. Chores (I clean the kitchen while Kai declutters the living room)

  4. Shower and Reading. (Kai shower, I read. I shower, Kai reads)

  5. Journal

  6. Read bible and pray

  7. Stretch and quiet time

  8. Sleep with sleep music


Now it’s your turn... Remember to try to put them in order of most to least energy.


Step 4: Implement and tweak.

This is just a blueprint, and it’s not meant to stress you out... it’s only here to give you control. If you’ve evenings vary day to day. You’re routine may need to vary.


Your routine is not meant to give you one more thing on your to do list. It’s to help you take control and create the space for the things already on it.


So don’t be afraid to adjust to your needs. If your routine is simply a shower than sleep... go for it.


I hope this was helpful and I would love to hear your routines... so leave a comment or send me an email :)


Talk soon,

Lyn Parker

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